Sometimes, I don’t think people understand the concept.
You see it all the time if people change their relationship status’ to ‘single’ on Facebook. Typical examples may include the following:
“OMG WHAT’S HAPPENED?”
“WTF? No way, why?”
“Aww why did ya break up? :(“
These are all ridiculous attempts at gossiping, which do not console the person in the slightest. If anything your blatantly nosy attitudes will make the person want to cry their eyes out, or perhaps tear their hair out depending on their emotions, and their level of tolerance.
Even a response such as:
“Oh no, what happened? Hope you’re okay”
with it’s small sentiment of consideration towards the person just seems like you’re masking the nosy attitude with a speck of sensitivity.
So, when I see my friends’ relationships (sadly) break down over the internet, depending on how close my relationship is with them, I’ll do one of 3 things:
- if they’re not so close to me, or I rarely speak to them I’ll write “hope you’re okay” at the most, or nothing at all.
- if they’ve been a nice friend I’ll write something along the lines of “hope you’re okay, if you need a chat, you know where I am <3”
- and if they’re a best friend, I will immediately send them a message, or IM them, or ring them up to ask how they are and let them know I’m a shoulder to cry on, or a face to rant to (there’s many ways to break up with someone, some unfortunately not the prettiest to look at).
But these people who just want to gossip and find out the latest in the relationship ranks are a bit pathetic. They should have some decency and try to discover something worthwhile in their lives, instead of being nosy and interfering with other people’s personal relationships. People don’t need meaningless pity after a break-up, they need a good cup of tea and true friends.